If you couldn't join adoptive parents (domestic and international) and authors in the adoption tweet chat Saturday, November 23, 2013, find the hashtag #adoptionbookchat on Twitter.
Parents and authors discussed a range of topics and answer a variety of questions!
Have questions about domestic infant adoption, open adoption, or Jody's book?
Tweet her! @jodycdyer
SUFFERING FROM INFERTILITY?
Not Just for Those Dealing with Adoption
Phenomenal!!! I have dealt with infertility for the past 4 years. I always felt alone in my anger at infertility. I searched in vain for someone who shared my anger, frustration, and heartache until I read [Dyer’s] story. Dyer very bravely puts her honest feelings about infertility and adoption out there to be read and scrutinized. It was nice to know that I'm not alone in feeling jilted by infertility and simultaneously blessed by the child that was so difficult to get.
Telling it like it is
As a mother who struggled to conceive, I understand and lived through, every single emotion the author shares with us. What a brave and unselfish thing to share with others who are in the same boat. The author merely "says" what every other infertile woman thinks! This book was very well written and chronicles the struggle of one person in the hopes of helping others. [Some people] will never be able to understand how completely hopeless and out of control you feel when you can't have a baby like everyone else. As a selfless human being it IS possible to feel joy for others while at the same time, heartbreak for yourself and your family. The author's end result to "have" her own child is a beautiful testimony to adoption in a win-win situation!
I enjoyed every word.
What a poignant, straightforward twist on the inside view of adoption. I was laughing or crying throughout the entire book, and sometimes both at the same time. The author's description of the fertility treatment process was the truest description I have ever read. Her heartfelt notes to her future child are what make this book so real to me. I would recommend this to anyone in the process of adoption to gain perspective on the hurdles one will have to jump through to get to the point of adoption. I have already recommended it to two other couples I know going through a domestic adoption, and they each have loved the book so far. I would read anything by Jody Cantrell Dyer if she chooses to pen another book.
A WAITING PROSPECTIVE ADOPTIVE PARENT?
A Must Read
I have always known I wanted to adopt a baby, so I was excited to read Dyer's book to peer behind the "adoption curtain" to see what someone's journey really looked like. Dyer tells the story of her and her husband's journey in such honest detail while wrapping it in her charming Southern voice. Dyer's Erma Bombeck-style humor makes her so relatable, while she shares with you her heartbreaking mental and emotional struggle. The Eye of Adoption is a must read for anyone who knows someone struggling with infertility, has friends or family who are adopting or are considering adoption themselves. Many of these subjects are not often discussed and it's Dyer's refreshing perspective that not only sheds light, but also humor and grace to these processes.
Heartwarming, wonderful story
I found this book to be so heartwarming, funny and relatable. Jody is so down to earth in her writing, I felt as though I knew her and rooted for her & her family throughout her story. I cried at some of the similarities we share in her journey before adopting and was given newfound hope that it will work out for my husband and I in due time. Everyone should read this book; whether adopting or not. People will then understand that you just don't get "chosen" and pick up baby when it's time. In some instances, relationships are formed and a lot of emotions come along with it. The uncertainty is a constant worry until the ink is dry. I highly recommend this book and will definitely share it with family & friends.
A BIRTH PARENT?
From the birthmother of Jody’s son:
I’ve sucked up every word…cried a lot...[the book is] amazing and I love it. It’s beautiful.
An Excellent Read for Anyone involved with the adoption process
Reading Jody’s story made me laugh, cry, cheer out loud, sigh with relief, and want to reach right into the pages and hug her and Kerri. This book is for anyone involved in the adoption process. It is encouraging and more importantly REAL.
AN ADOPTIVE PARENT?
Honest and emotional
I was so happy to read her honest feelings. So many times when reading this book I thought “I'm not so crazy for feeling this way as an adoptive mother!”
It is so worth your money and time to read this book to be able to connect with an adoptive mother who doesn't sugar coat things but doesn't make things scary either.
TRYING TO BE A GOOD FRIEND TO SOMEONE GOING THROUGH INFERTILITY OR ADOPTION?
I feel like I am better equipped to help friends and family that might struggle- the “what to says” and the “what not to says.” I highly recommend this book for everyone. When I was reading it, I found myself crying, belly laughing and saying YAY!! Although it deals with a heart wrenching subject, it includes fabulous down to earth humor with a tell it like it is approach!
Anyone considering adoption should read this book.
Anyone considering giving up a baby for adoption should read this book.
Anyone who knows someone on either end of that story should read this book!
A must read for any woman
I struggled with some infertility issues myself and went on to have 2 children but this book is certainly an eye opener into the complex world of adoption and the reminder of the rollercoaster ride of infertility. Every woman will either experience some similar issues or will know someone who will/has and reading this journey will strengthen your faith and allow you to be a more sympathetic listener, encourager, and witness during the spent waiting for a baby. One of my favorite aspects of the book was the constant respect and admiration given to the birthmother and her family. Thank you for sharing your story!
A SOCIAL WORKER?
Jody Dyer has blessed us with her life story of infertility and adoption. I know that many people in the adoption triad will appreciate the heartwarming account of her up and down, true to life, experience. As a counselor, I especially like how Jody and Jeff approached their adoption decisions: first from their baby's (Scotty) best interest, then from the birth mother's (Kerri) interest, and finally from their own. Jody and Jeff display for us readers how a healthy open adoption can work for the child, and birth and adoptive families.
Carol Lozier, MSW, LCSW
Author of "Devotions of Comfort and Hope for Adoptive & Foster Moms" and "The Adoptive & Foster Parent Guide"
CURIOUS ABOUT OPEN ADOPTIONS?
An excellent account of adoption from multiple views
I was a single mom who chose to keep her daughter at 21 in 1978 when that was a rare choice. Many years, marriage later, in 2005 my younger daughter was talked out of an abortion by my older daughter. She too chose to be a single mom. She is getting married this year but will never be able to have any more due to a rare pregnancy disease. She and her fiancé are discussing adoption. I think this book will help many like them through the challenges of adoption. Praise to Jody and Jeff, Kerri and Bryant for opening their lives to help others!
AN ADULT ADOPTEE?
This account keeps it REAL.
This is an amazing account of the adoption process and the feelings associated with the process. It acknowledges the associated fears and emotions from both sides. Many would retreat from such subject matter, but this account courageously charges forward and promotes understanding which, in turn, nurtures healing. I would recommend this book to anyone that has been impacted by the process of adoption- even if it is thru generations.
This is an amazing account of the adoption process and the feelings associated with the process. It acknowledges the associated fears and emotions from both sides. Many would retreat from such subject matter, but this account courageously charges forward and promotes understanding which, in turn, nurtures healing. I would recommend this book to anyone that has been impacted by the process of adoption- even if it is thru generations other than your own. It is powerful in it's delivery and I hope that it touches other readers as much as it has touched me.
◦Why Jody and Jeff decided on domestic infant adoption.
◦What open adoption means to Jody and her child's birth family
◦What adopting a baby meant to them (especially since Jeff was adopted as a baby).
◦How they researched and chose an adoption agency.
◦How and why the birthmother of their son chose Jody and Jeff.
◦The one thing Jody and Jeff would have done differently on their adoption journey.
◦Answers to common questions about the adoption process and open adoption